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Do you know how to love those you love most?
Do you feel loved & appreciated?
Did you just laugh out loud when you read that?
A mom loves unconditionally, but it is a LOT easier to love on everyone when you have some love in the tank to give.
We can’t pour from an empty cup.
Nor can our husbands. Or our kids.
Everyone needs to FEEL loved, to have their cups filled “past the tippy top” as Izak used to say, in order to spill out to others.
According to The 5 Love Languages there are 5 main ways we show, & feel, love. They are, in no particular order,
- Acts of Service
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
- Receiving Gifts
- Words of Affirmation
The kids say mine is FOOD.
I can’t argue. I do love food.
But I have learned over the years that 2 areas put me in a better place consistently.
If I do not have face to face, Quality Time with my husband, we struggle. It’s just that simple.
And I do a LOT of Acts of Service in this house. If I continually do & do & do, without anyone DOING anything for me, I get cranky. 😠
Let’s Prepare – the warm up
It’s common that people tend to show love in the way they wish to receive it.
For example, Ali is constantly coming in for hugs, patting my butt, rubbing my back (all usually while I’m trying to make dinner 😵💫) & I have to resist the urge to swat him away.
His love language is Physical Touch. (This doesn’t just mean sex by the way.)
Knowing this is his language, I try to make an effort to reach over & rub his shoulders or pat him, kiss him, etc. throughout the day. It takes effort though as that is not my preferred way.
Let’s Work – the exercise
I’m going to go out on a limb here & guess that you love your children. I think this little bit of information helps us love them better.
You may be wasting your energy doing, or wasting your money buying gifts, when all they really want is a hug.
You can print off & take this written Love Languages Quiz for free.
Or you can do this quick on-line version. They ask you to give your email for a detailed result but you can get the jist without providing anything.
I strongly recommend having your kids take this written quiz to learn how THEY feel most loved.
Before giving them the quiz, try to guess (without telling them so you don’t skew their results) what they are before they take theirs.
This is a fun family dinner conversation/activity. ❤️ I hope you learn something new.
